Freelancing parents: looking for feedback

I’m still recovering from spending all of last week in New Orleans at the 59th annual ATA conference, so here’s a topic for all of you while I catch up on work and sleep: A colleague is weighing the options for working (or not) with small children, and specifically whether to take a sabbatical (stop working completely) for a couple of years, or to work 10-20 hours a week during the small child years. Obviously there’s not a clear answer here (if only!), so I’m interested in hearing from readers about the pros and cons. Freelancing moms and dads, over to you: what do you think?? I’ll kick things off: My daughter is 16, and I started freelancing when she was a baby–just a few months old. I worked probably 5-10 hours per week during her first year of life, then 10-20 hours a week until she went to preschool at age 2 1/2, then a little more than that until she was in school for a full day when she was 5. However you slice it, freelancing with small kids involves some tradeoffs, but I feel that this option was probably the best for me. I felt–correctly, I think–that if I didn’t work at all, I would lose my mind from boredom and lack of intellectual stimulation, and that if I worked full-time, I would regret not having spent more time with my daughter during those early years. However, the situation still had some minuses: -I continually wished that I could be a full-time translator and a full-time mom. Intellectually, I knew that there would still be tons of exciting work opportunities there for me when my daughter was older and more independent. In retrospect, I feel that I have plenty of time to work as much as I want, now that my daughter is a teenager and will soon be in college. However, time sometimes moves very slowly when you have a small child; they don’t call it “the longest, shortest time” for nothing, and there were moments when I felt a lot of tension between the kind of fulfilling professional life I wanted for myself, and the kind of home life I wanted for my daughter. -No matter how little you work, working when you have a small child is still stressful (or at least it was for me). Murphy’s Law dictates that even if you hire child care, which seems like the “easy button” solution, the babysitter calls in sick on the day you’re scrambling to meet a big deadline, or the kid wakes up with a fever on the day you have an important client meeting. Even with a supportive husband, I still did a lot of juggling. And for what it’s worth, this Murphy’s Law is still true when the kids are no longer little. My daughter almost never gets sick, but when she does, it is always when I have a big deadline or ATA-related task. Kids seem to have a radar for these things! -However, I feel that I would not have been happy had I not worked at all. As an illustrative example, a friend of mine took several years off working when her kids were little. Then one day, she went to pick the family’s tax return forms up from their accountant, and in the space where the accountant lists your profession, her accountant had put “Housewife.” You can say that “housewife” is a dated term–and it is. You can say that unpaid labor, mostly performed by women, is a huge and hidden part of the American economy–and it is. You can say that a lack of affordable, high-quality child care is a major barrier to women’s economic activity in the US–and it is. You can say that child care should be seen as a family or household expense, not something that the woman in the household has to fund if she chooses to work–also true. Or you can criticize the accountant, who perhaps should have listed the friend’s previous profession, or asked the friend what she preferred to put. Still, that was part of my fear–getting stuck in the “housewife” category. -Finally, I’m a maniacal believer in self-sufficiency. I felt that even if I earned only enough money to pay for my daughter’s child care and my own spending money, I still really wanted to work. Other people feel differently, and would rather be home full time than net a few hundred dollars a month by working. During my first year of freelancing I earned $9,000, but in some ways it felt more draining than the work I do now to make six figures…constantly getting up early, working late, arranging babysitters, praying that my daughter would sleep for a full two hours in the afternoon, and on and on. Readers, over to you: what are your thoughts on this?? I’m particularly interested in hearing from people who took an extended period of time off when their kids were little, and how that worked out. The post Freelancing parents: looking for feedback appeared first on Thoughts On Translation.

Images Released Of Car In Popular Chef’s Drive-By Murder

CHICAGO (CBS) — Chicago police have released new surveillance images of a car that may be connected to the murder of Lake In the Hills chef Peter Rim.

Area North Detectives want to locate a Nissan Rogue with tinted windows and an unknown Illinois license plate in connection with the Oct. 25 shooting.

peter rim Images Released Of Car In Popular Chefs Drive By Murder

Peter Rim, owner of Bistro Wasabi and El Cochino restaurants, was shot and killed in Chicago on Oct. 25, 2018. (Credit: Facebook/Bistro Wasabi)

According to police, the vehicle pulled up alongside the passenger side of a vehicle Rim was riding in with friends Thursday morning in the the 4100 block of West Diversey when someone started shooting.

Authorities said the Nissan Rogue fled westbound on Diversey Avenue and then southbound on Kostner Avenue.

car Images Released Of Car In Popular Chefs Drive By Murder

(Credit: Chicago Police)

No one is in custody.

Rim, who owned Bistro Wasabi and El Cochino, was planning to host a Day of the Dead celebration on Nov. 1.

His colleague, Jeffrey Dunham, said his friends and work family planned to continue with the celebration in his honor.

“At the end of the day we want justice brought to the situation,” Dunham said.

 

car Images Released Of Car In Popular Chefs Drive By Murder

(Credit: CPD)

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Martin Luther’s Marriage Changed the Western World

Wednesday, October 31st marks the 501st anniversary of Reformation Day. The Christian blogosphere and social media accounts will be packed with references about Martin Luther and his involvement in the Reformation. I’m glad this will happen. But I want to take a different direction. I want to talk about his marriage.Martin Luther marraige Martin Luther didn’t marry until age 42. But when he did, his marriage changed the way the western world thought about marriage. What’s Luther known for? He’s known for good and bad things. On the good side, he’s known for his passionate views on the doctrine of justification and for his writings — he was a deep thinker and gifted with words. But perhaps his biggest known contribution is his bravery in helping spark the Reformation. 1

What Sparked the Reformation

There are many factors that contributed to the birth of the Protestant Reformation. Big movements (good) don’t happen on accident, and they’re often a response to something (bad) else. Here are some of the things that helped spark it: -Nationalism – There was increasingly a desire to reject papal authority for the sake of allegiance to one’s home country and the rules and power that came with it rather than submitting to the Roman Catholic Church. –Ad Fontes– This is a Latin expression which means, “Back to the sources.” As opposed to merely trusting what others say, like the berenas (Acts 17:10-12), there was an increased desire for one to discover truth on his or her own terms. –The Printing Press – The guy who invented the printing press died thinking he was a failure. Little did he know he changed the world. With the invention of the Printing press, books and other resources spread much more rapidly. –Black Plague – People were dying quickly from it. The fear of hell and death haunted people. This made room for the gospel and a safe and secure eternity to shine, as opposed to legalism and self-righteousness, which the Roman Catholic Church advocated, adding to the problem. –The corruption of the Catholic church —There was much corruption within the church, but perhaps what was most hurtful — both then and now — is the sexual corruption. Priests were taking advantage of others, and many were giving into bigamy. And herein lies what helped Luther’s marriage to stand out. Because of the sexual corruption in the Catholic church, the biblical idea of marriage — one man and one woman, who stay faithful to one another for life — created so much interest. In fact, it too helped start the Protestant Reformation. Chief among protestant marriages was the marriage of Martin Luther. Little did he know that God would use his marriage to change the world. It’s amazing how much good you can do just by being faithful. Your faithfulness will be even more prominent when the bar is set low.

Martin Luther and Katie von Bora

Luther was the one who proposed marriage for clergy, and this idea passed in 1520. But Luther himself did not want to marry. At least not at first. “I will never take a wife,” Luther said. He continued, “Not that I am insensible to my flesh . . ., but my mind is averse to wedlock because I daily expect the death of a heretic.” Luther was obsessed with the idea of dying as a martyr. “Why get married if I’m just going to die for the Lord anyway,” he may have thought to himself. But that would change when he met his eventual wife — Katie von Bora. Katharina von Bora (1499-1552) was a nun. Born of an esteemed family, she was set on being a nun for life, until she secretly read Luther’s book, On Monastic Vows in 1522, which denied clerical celibacy. Inspired by Luther’s book and the prospect of getting hitched, she (and other nuns) abandoned her life as a nun, seeking perhaps to get married. The other nuns who left this lifestyle either returned to relatives or had success in finding a spouse. But not Katie, who was rejected by one potential spouse as being too old. I suspect she got sick of waiting around, so she took matters upon herself. She herself suggested that she should marry Luther. And whaddya know? It worked. Reluctantly, Luther gave in. Luther married Katie to “take pity” on her. When they first married, he was not in love with her. He said, “I feel neither passionate love nor burning for my spouse.” Worse, the main reason why Luther married Katie was to “spite the pope.” Nevertheless, they got married in the summer of 1525. But something amazing happened after they married: Luther fell in love with his wife. He said, “I love my Katie; yes, I love her more dearly than myself.” They were married for 21 years and had six children together. In a book on Church History, we are told that “ . . . perhaps most significant is the fact that because it was such a public event, it became the paradigm for a new Protestant understanding of marriage. Indeed, many scholars contend that Luther inaugurated a cultural paradigm shift in the very concept of marriage . . . Luther and Katie changed the way the western world thought about marriage.” For so long, in that day, marriage was about social status, not mutual affection and love. Sex was even looked poorly upon, even by Augustine who wrongly argued that sex, even in marriage between one man and woman, was still slightly stained by sin. But Luther and Katie changed the way people viewed sex and love and marriage and romance. Indeed, their faithfulness to one another for over two decades changed the way the western world thought about marriage. Martin Luther was not a perfect man. But the Lord used him in great ways. As you reflect on Reformation Day this year, do think about the doctrine of justification. But also think about his marriage. After all, it changed the world.
 

Notes:

  1. Some of the quotes and ideas of this post were derived from Church History (see pages 140-141).
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Why Teachers Choose to Homeschool Their Own Children

“Schools are different now, they’ve changed a lot you know!” As a home educating parent I hear this a lot. People want to believe we just don’t know what goes on in schools, as if they operate in secret or … Continue reading The post Why Teachers Choose to Homeschool Their Own Children appeared first on Happiness is here.