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My Ungrateful, Greedy Beloved

She could almost feel it, his flesh tightly gripped in her hands as she shoved his head under water again. His head vigorously shaking under the surface, fighting against her strength to gasp for air. But she was too strong, his extra skin around his neck became his fatal flaw as it provided a better grip for her to hold on. Yes, she could almost feel it – what it would be like to suck the life out of him. To be stronger than him. Yet, all she could do was nod as he once again asked “Did you hear me?” If not water perhaps the answer was to go high enough where the drop would not just hurt. “You’re not listening again…” his voice an octave lower with a sense of warning in his words. My girlfriend had mentioned to me that her beloved made her languid to the point she would listen. All she had to was just let go and sleep. How I would prefer that over my…. Her thought was cut short. She forgot to nod in acknowledgement and she could not even flinch before the punishment stung her. Her ungrateful, selfish beloved was the devil. The devil whom encompassed her incompetences, her fears, and everything holding her back from moving on. He, the devil, was her in every form. Yet, not at all.

Survey: Most Adults Would Dump Partner Who Doesn’t Like Their Dog

WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA (CBS Local) – Love is no match for man’s best friend. According to a new survey, an overwhelming number of adults would dump their partner if they didn’t like their dog. A survey of 3,500 dog owners conducted by dog-walking service Wag!, found that 86 percent of respondents would end a relationship if their boyfriend or girlfriend couldn’t get along with their dog. “It comes as no surprise to us at Wag! that dog parents place a premium on their dogs’ opinions of other humans and that this plays a deciding factor in their love lives,” company CEO Hilary Schneider said, via StudyFinds. In some cases, spouses are even taking a back seat to their husband or wife’s four-legged friend. 16 percent of married dog owners said they preferred celebrating their pet’s birthday over their own spouse’s. However, the news isn’t all bad as dogs were found to be the key to many people’s hearts. Over 70 percent of people surveyed said they were more likely to “swipe right” if a person’s online dating profile featured their pup. Six in 10 adults claim they were flirted with while walking their furry friend. For singles, Wag! says forget the pickup lines and get a dog. Nearly 80 percent of dog owners admit they’d be more likely to go home with someone if that person said they had a dog there waiting to meet them.

Survey: Most Adults Would Dump Partner Who Doesn’t Like Their Dog

WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA (CBS Local) – Love is no match for man’s best friend. According to a new survey, an overwhelming number of adults would dump their partner if they didn’t like their dog. A survey of 3,500 dog owners conducted by dog-walking service Wag!, found that 86 percent of respondents would end a relationship if their boyfriend or girlfriend couldn’t get along with their dog. “It comes as no surprise to us at Wag! that dog parents place a premium on their dogs’ opinions of other humans and that this plays a deciding factor in their love lives,” company CEO Hilary Schneider said, via StudyFinds. In some cases, spouses are even taking a back seat to their husband or wife’s four-legged friend. 16 percent of married dog owners said they preferred celebrating their pet’s birthday over their own spouse’s. However, the news isn’t all bad as dogs were found to be the key to many people’s hearts. Over 70 percent of people surveyed said they were more likely to “swipe right” if a person’s online dating profile featured their pup. Six in 10 adults claim they were flirted with while walking their furry friend. For singles, Wag! says forget the pickup lines and get a dog. Nearly 80 percent of dog owners admit they’d be more likely to go home with someone if that person said they had a dog there waiting to meet them.

Survey: Most Adults Would Dump Partner Who Doesn’t Like Their Dog

WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA (CBS Local) – Love is no match for man’s best friend. According to a new survey, an overwhelming number of adults would dump their partner if they didn’t like their dog. A survey of 3,500 dog owners conducted by dog-walking service Wag!, found that 86 percent of respondents would end a relationship if their boyfriend or girlfriend couldn’t get along with their dog. “It comes as no surprise to us at Wag! that dog parents place a premium on their dogs’ opinions of other humans and that this plays a deciding factor in their love lives,” company CEO Hilary Schneider said, via StudyFinds. In some cases, spouses are even taking a back seat to their husband or wife’s four-legged friend. 16 percent of married dog owners said they preferred celebrating their pet’s birthday over their own spouse’s. However, the news isn’t all bad as dogs were found to be the key to many people’s hearts. Over 70 percent of people surveyed said they were more likely to “swipe right” if a person’s online dating profile featured their pup. Six in 10 adults claim they were flirted with while walking their furry friend. For singles, Wag! says forget the pickup lines and get a dog. Nearly 80 percent of dog owners admit they’d be more likely to go home with someone if that person said they had a dog there waiting to meet them.

Survey: Most Adults Would Dump Partner Who Doesn’t Like Their Dog

WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA (CBS Local) – Love is no match for man’s best friend. According to a new survey, an overwhelming number of adults would dump their partner if they didn’t like their dog. A survey of 3,500 dog owners conducted by dog-walking service Wag!, found that 86 percent of respondents would end a relationship if their boyfriend or girlfriend couldn’t get along with their dog. “It comes as no surprise to us at Wag! that dog parents place a premium on their dogs’ opinions of other humans and that this plays a deciding factor in their love lives,” company CEO Hilary Schneider said, via StudyFinds. In some cases, spouses are even taking a back seat to their husband or wife’s four-legged friend. 16 percent of married dog owners said they preferred celebrating their pet’s birthday over their own spouse’s. However, the news isn’t all bad as dogs were found to be the key to many people’s hearts. Over 70 percent of people surveyed said they were more likely to “swipe right” if a person’s online dating profile featured their pup. Six in 10 adults claim they were flirted with while walking their furry friend. For singles, Wag! says forget the pickup lines and get a dog. Nearly 80 percent of dog owners admit they’d be more likely to go home with someone if that person said they had a dog there waiting to meet them.

Couples Can’t Tell In The Beginning If They’re In A Long Or Short-Term Relationship

DAVIS (CBS13) – Knowing on the first date that you’ve met the person you’re going to marry might be more fantasy than fact, according to a new study done by UC Davis. Researchers surveyed more than 800 people of all ages and found long and short-term relationships actually look almost identical in the beginning. The trajectories typically don’t pull apart until you’ve known the person for weeks or months- around the time relationships become sexual. The lead author, Paul Eastwick, is an associate professor of psychology at UC Davis. He and his team surveyed people and asked them about the events and experience in past short-term and long-term relationships, specifically the events in the very beginning- before they even started dating. They broke the events up into a number of categories, including: first time they held hands, met each other’s parents, said “I love you”, first planned a vacation, first had a major disagreement, first lied, and first became annoyed with the other person. “Some of the most interesting moments in these relationships happen after you meet the person face-to-face, but before anything sexual has happened,” said Eastwick. “You wonder ‘is this going somewhere?’ or ‘How much am I into this person.’ It is somewhere around this point that short-term and long-term relationships start to diverge, and historically, we have very little data on this particular period of time.” In the beginning, the romantic interest rises at about the same rate. In short-term relationships it tends to plateau and then decline, according to researchers. In longer term relationships the romantic interest ascends and reaches a higher peak. The researchers concluded people end up in short-term relationships when they’re attracted to each other enough to keep having sex. Long-term relationships start out exciting and sexy and end up stable and lasting. The results were published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General.

‘I Have More Energy’: 1 In 4 Couples Sleep Apart For Better Rest

MINNEAPOLIS (CBS) — Snoring, sleep talking or hogging the blankets can make sleeping with another person impossible. The National Sleep Foundation found some married couples choose to get a better night’s rest by sleeping apart.

“Sometimes it’s so loud you just laugh, you know that’s all you can do,” said Nancy Scott.

Scott tries to keep a sense of humor when it comes to her husband’s snoring.

“I tried a new set of ear plugs last night. Well, they fell out,” she said.

After too many restless nights, the Bloomington couple decided it was time to sleep in separate rooms.

Scott is far from alone. A survey from the National Sleep Foundation finds that almost one in four married couples sleep in separate beds or separate rooms.

“There is a diagnosis called environmental sleep disorder, it basically means there is something in your room that is disturbing your sleep,” said Dr. Andrew Stiehm, a Sleep Specialist with Allina Health.

bed I Have More Energy: 1 In 4 Couples Sleep Apart For Better Rest

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TV on, TV off, twitchy legs, and different bedtimes: all can be disruptions according to Stiehm. He encourages sleep-deprived couples to go their separate ways at night.

“If the noise of your partner is preventing you from sleeping, you can sleep in a different space,” he said. “I have a couple that shared with me that when they go on vacation they can’t even sleep on the same floor of the hotel, that’s how loud his snoring is.”

When she does sleep in a different room, Scott says she’s a better wife.

“I have more energy,” she said. “I am a better person all around to myself and my family and yeah I can tell the difference.”

Despite the need for rest, sleeping separately is still not something many couples are comfortable talking about. It’s one of the reasons Scott’s husband didn’t want to appear in this story.

So, how do you know when it’s time to set the shame aside and give it a try?

“There’s this great myth out there that sleeping separately is an indicator your marriage is about to fail,” said Dr. Carol Bruess, a St. Thomas University marriage and family professor.

But she says that’s not true. Bruess says it’s not what couples do during the night, but what they do during the day.

“What couples need to be really careful about is making sure they are prioritizing physical intimacy even holding hands, snuggling and, of course, sexual intimacy, that can happen anytime, it’s not happening when you’re sleeping,” she said.

What is happening in Scott’s household is more sleep. And all along the snoring solution was right under their noses.

“We’re lucky we have an extra room and there is a nice, comfy bed down there,” Scott said.

Bruess says there are instances where couples become distant in their relationships and sleeping separately is a manifestation of that. She suggests couples be honest and if it’s something more than different sleep habits, see a therapist.

Study: Dish Washing A Chore That Could Kill A Relationship

PHILADELPHIA (CBS) — Nobody enjoys doing chores around the house, but can you guess the number one chore most likely to ruin a relationship? The dishes. Plates, cups, and silverware pile up throughout the day, and one question always stands: Who is going to do them? The Council of Contemporary Families (CCF) recently reported that the answer to this question can ultimately determine the success or failure of a relationship. ALSO READ: Yosemite National Park Cancels Camping Ahead Of California Storm The study compared a number of household chores and found that women in heterosexual relationships want to split the responsibility of doing the dishes more than any other chore. Women who constantly do the dishes report relationship conflict, less relationship satisfaction and bad sex more than women who split the responsibility with their partner. According to the study, sharing responsibility for dishwashing was the single biggest source of satisfaction for women among all the household tasks, and lack of sharing of this task the single biggest source of discontent. ALSO READ: Yes, Facebook Is Scanning Your Messages Sharing duties may be the way to go. Couples who share the responsibility of doing the dishes report they have a better relationship with their partner, according to the study.