Category Archives: relationships

Expectations and then some…

Just enjoyed re-reading “The Ugly Duckling” and accompanying commentary. It is remarkable to me how often so many will only be drawn to and acknowledge those of like kind. In all honesty, how many times do many of us run instinctively towards what is different from us? How many are more interested in staying with… The post Expectations and then some… appeared first on BayArt.

Jaded and Tired

I do not feel regret but rather I question my recent actions. I question my lack of presence on this blog. I question my choice to miss my classes. I question my sudden choice to opt out of my last minute trip to D.C to comfort my sister. I question my need to sleep so much these days, at least 12 to 15 hours. I truly wonder what my reasons are behind my actions. I have been living day by day, a huge leap for someone like me who only could see from ten steps ahead of her. However, I have now been barely skimming through the days, focusing on surviving. There is no meaning as to each day but rather the idea of somehow just getting through it. And no, it does not mean I am drowning in sadness. Such a life is common among people. We lose purpose. Yet, I have not lost purpose. I know exactly what I need to and want to do. Still, however, I choose to break apart my routine day by day despite it being necessary for my future (whatever that future is). And it leads me to question my choice again.

Who To Blame When Your Spouse Cheats

Men and women cheat on their spouses for different reasons. Men cheat because they are selfish pigs. Women cheat because they are unfulfilled or bored… …married to selfish pig husbands. It’s all outlined in this worthless article from CNN. I’ll summarize the article:

“Men and women are both selfish pigs but women are justified in being so.”

When a husband cheats on a wife, she’s a victim. When a wife cheats on her husband it’s because she’s a victim. So much for gender equality. This has to end. Somebody needs to stand up and do the brave thing… …place blame. Obviously, failed marriages can’t be blamed on married people. So whose fault is it? stands up bravely It’s the church’s fault. Totally. “Til death do us part,” didn’t come from the pages of Playboy. The church preaches lifelong monogamy. A ludicrous idea that runs contrary to human instincts. Note the puzzled look on a bachelor’s face when you suggest he settle down and raise kids. Note the furious response when you suggest a woman stay in her loveless marriage. Yet the church keeps marketing marriage as the pile of gold at the end of the relationship rainbow. We rave about the joy to be found within marriage… …then council youngsters not to ‘rush into it’. We tell married people to find happiness… …by remembering the pre-marriage relationship. We publish books…so many books… …gazillions of books… …full of tips for making marriage as awesome as dating. God forbid I suffer a moment of dullness. Boredom is a sure sign that ‘something is wrong‘ with my marriage… …I mean, something is wrong with my spouse. Because marriage is supposed to be endlessly satisfying, right? This is our fault, church. We are misrepresenting what marriage actually is. Put another way, we’re lying to people.
“You kids should quit living in sin and get married!”

Why? There is nothing magical about signing a marriage certificate. The church should quit preaching the benefits of marriage apart from the necessity of Christ. Jesus changes people. Marriage doesn’t.

I tend to seek approval from and to impress people who ignore me. Q & A

I tend to seek approval from and to impress people who ignore me. Q & A Q: “One thing I’ve noticed recently is I tend to seek approval from/impress people who ignore me or don’t speak with me much, especially girls. Why does it happen and what can I do to stop doing it?” A:… The post I tend to seek approval from and to impress people who ignore me. Q & A appeared first on BayArt.

I tend to seek approval from and to impress other people. Q & A

I tend to seek approval from and to impress people who ignore me. Q & A Q: “One thing I’ve noticed recently is I tend to seek approval from/impress people who ignore me or don’t speak with me much, especially girls. Why does it happen and what can I do to stop doing it?” A:… The post I tend to seek approval from and to impress other people. Q & A appeared first on BayArt.

I am different, I don’t fit in, what’s wrong with me? Q&A

I am different, I don’t fit in, what’s wrong with me? Q&A Q: “No matter how hard I try, I don’t seem to fit in any group, I just want to be myself around people and have friends but I feel like I am different. What’s wrong with me?” A: “Take a deep breath girl,… The post I am different, I don’t fit in, what’s wrong with me? Q&A appeared first on BayArt.

I am different, I don’t fit in, what’s wrong with me? Q&A

I am different, I don’t fit in, what’s wrong with me? Q&A   Q: “No matter how hard I try, I don’t seem to fit in any group, I just want to be myself around people and have friends but I feel like I am different. What’s wrong with me?”   A: “Take a deep… The post I am different, I don’t fit in, what’s wrong with me? Q&A appeared first on BayArt.