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I really want to love myself… Q&A

Q: “I really want to love myself, I hate depending on others to make me feel loved.” A:” You are unique Emma (not the real name). Unique in a way that only you can be! No one else in this world can be who you are. You have unique and beautiful qualities and perhaps you… The post I really want to love myself… Q&A appeared first on BayArt.

Self-Esteem

A former student sent me a link to a video about self-esteem last week. She asked for my comments. I finally made time to watch it today. Here’s the video:   Matt Walsh is certainly correct here. Confidence, defined essentially as known competence in the face of difficulty is superior to self-esteem (see note below).  But I was asked, why I do not know, for my thoughts. William James defined self-esteem with this equation: Self-esteem, in this sense, is inevitable. It is impossible to be void of self-reflection to the point that you never compare your level of success to your pretensions. For James self-esteem is your pretension (an ideal vision of yourself) compared to your attainment. Spiritually speaking, this is most fully explained in Romans 7, but Galatians 6:4 puts it most concisely (and more positively):
For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor. (Galatians 6:3-4)

For the Christian there are two challenges when it comes to self-esteem:
  1. Determining whether our ideal self is a realistic portrayal of our potential based on our understanding of Jesus Christ and our personality, circumstances, and calling.
  2. Making the wise choices necessary to make progress toward our ideal self.
If you confront those challenges and always recall your admiration of Christ and your confidence in his ability to accomplish what he says he will, then I suspect you’ll be in good shape:
For in him the whole fullness of deity dwells bodily, and you have been filled in him, who is the head of all rule and authority. (Colossians 2:9-10)
So, “do good things, and you’ll have all the esteem you need.” Note: What I don’t like about Walsh’s video is that Walsh criticizes a theoretical construct (self-esteem) with a colloquial one (confidence). Note Albert Bandura’s distinction between confidence as a general term (the word Matt uses) with self-efficacy, the definition of which, Matt uses for confidence:

Cracks in the Foundations

I’m having a fight with myself, beating myself up until I’m bruised and weak.  I’m battling the recent constant thoughts that I’m a second rate woman. I’m going on other people’s facebook pages who I deem to be more attractive and I’m looking at their photos and wishing I could be more like them. Less… The post Cracks in the Foundations appeared first on BayArt.

A New Rule of Attraction

It’s hard to practice what you preach sometimes. This week I have felt incredibly envious of a younger woman because I didn’t feel like I could match up to her. My partner used to have a crush on this woman who is a friend of his and I noticed this when I met her and…

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The Importance of Self- Esteem during Development 

Now as a 22- year old adult, I find myself trying to build myself up, but I don’t have a foundation. And I didn’t know why. Until we started talking about self- esteem and development in my Personal and Social Adjustment Psychology class. We were discussing the relationship between self- esteem (perception of ourselves) and…

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Dove: The Beauty Legacy a Mother Leaves Behind

Dove: The Beauty Legacy a Mother Leaves Behind

In their recent short film Legacy, out of Ogilvy Paris, Dove aims to educate mothers on the effects their low physical self-confidence has on their young daughters.

In the Legacy video,Dove asked five women to write down the things they liked and disliked about their physical appearance. The women’s answers ranged from “big” legs to”wonky” eyes and even as far as “bingo” arms. Dove then asked the…

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Social Media’s Influence on Children and Adolescent Development

Social Media’s Influence on Children and Adolescent Development

Social Media can be defined as any sort of media created for the masses that is intended to enable users to communicate, share, and participate in social networking. The most common activity among children and adolescents has become participating in social interactions by social media applications such as:  Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Tumblr. Social media has the power to change how people…

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Social Media’s Influence on Children and Adolescent Development

Social Media’s Influence on Children and Adolescent Development

Social Media can be defined as any sort of media created for the masses that is intended to enable users to communicate, share, and participate in social networking. The most common activity among children and adolescents has become participating in social interactions by social media applications such as:  Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Tumblr. Social media has the power to change how people…

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